People blame society and the media for all the self-esteem issues in the world. However, we as individuals make up society and control the media.
Society is a group of people who can be grouped together based on religious beliefs, culture, and geography, right? So if the American society needs to change, that really means that the 313.9 million individual Americans need to change. Ah, so that’s the problem. How do you convince 313.9 million individuals, who each have their own frame of reference, to not judge people based on looks, to greet everyone with enthusiasm and treat everyone with politeness no matter if they are old, young, big or small.
Can you imagine a society made up of individuals who were literally blind to beauty? I have a dream. . .
So, as a society, we individuals also control the media. How? By deciding what to spend our money on. When individuals buy magazines with size 0 models on the cover, they contribute to that magazine’s revenue. Add a couple hundred thousand more buyers and boom that magazine is doing good business. As soon as enough individuals stop buying celebrity gossip magazines, they will go out of business and disappear. Same for teen pregnancy shows, celebrity gossip sites, etc.
If a trashy television show has a lot of viewers, advertisers come running because they want their ad to run on a show that has the most viewers. Naturally, they want a lot of potential customers to see the ad that they paid someone to make. So, if you complain about these things, make sure you yourself aren’t contributing to their success.
I chuckle to myself when I hear everyone in the U.S. denying that they watch “Keeping Up with the Kardashians” and “Here Comes Honey Boo Boo” because both shows are obviously doing well. Somebody is watching. And by somebody I mean millions (including me maybe). What?
Okay great, that’s depressing. What do we do about it? First, realize that you will never get 313.9 million sinners to forget about outward looks. We are naturally attracted to beauty. I mean hey, I’m writing this blog and I struggle with that. Second, know that the things you watch and read affect your mind. Your mind controls what you think and talk about. If you find that all of your conversations start with “Hey did you see what *insert celebrity name* did?” or if you find that all of your thoughts center around “I wish I had her *insert body part*” then you should clean out your media intake. No need to beat yourself up about it. Just make a simple clean out of your computer, television shows, movies, etc. Protect your mind like you protect your heart.